Is 50 too late to start feeling middle-aged?
Or perhaps it’s to do with Lammas, the upcoming first harvest festival of the year. You see Lammas is when the first fruits are brought in. There’s still plenty to come but we’re well over the half-way point of the year. And when I came to think about this, skimming through various pagan calendars and wheels of the year, I realised that Lammas is the point I’ve reached in my life as well.
Much to my surprise, I’m okay with that.
So I’m not having a mid-life crisis this week, I’m celebrating the Lammas-point of my existence. I have two young children to look after. I’ve finished books (and they’re starting to get rejected at an altogether higher level than ever before!) and I like our house. I’ve even managed to get married and my job still clings on to a little bit of social value.
On top of those those classic material signifiers, I can do a headstand in yoga for the first time (take that aching joints and saggy bits) and I’ve finally started to understand why people make such a fuss about Charles Mingus (or Autechre). Plus, there’s an element of the sacred knocking at the door of my soul for the first time in a while.
Leonard Cohen got there first, of course. At the age of 54, he released ‘I’m Your Man’, a blueprint for how to look at the world from the craggy heights of one’s fifties (and clearly his current record performs the same trick if you’re warily contemplating your late seventies).
They sentenced me to twenty years of boredom
For trying to change the system from within
I’m coming now, I’m coming to reward them
First we take Manhattan, then we take Berlin
Well, yes. I’ve had the 20 years of boredom. I’m as sick and tired of trying to change the system from within as a man can be. And God knows I want Berlin and Manhattan.
Ah remember me, I used to live for music
Remember me, I brought your groceries in
Well it’s Father’s Day and everybody’s wounded
First we take Manhattan, then we take Berlin
It’s me! Leonard is singing directly to me! I could quote lines from every song on the album but I’ll settle for one more.
Yeah my friends are gone and my hair is grey
I ache in the places where I used to play
And I’m crazy for love but I’m not coming on
I’m just paying my rent every day
Oh in the Tower of Song
“I’m just paying my rent everyday/In the Tower of Song”. I feel that’s where I’m living. Believe it or not, it’s a good location to finally launch that all-out assault on Manhattan.
July 26th, 2013 at 4:25 pm
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July 26th, 2013 at 10:44 pm
I haven’t had that ‘this song is about me’ feeling for a long time. I suppose it’d help if I played some music more often. Oh well.
Good post. It’s a good feeling to feel like you’re sitting comfortably in the pocket of life. For a while, at least!
July 29th, 2013 at 4:51 pm
For a while! But is there a poem that lifts you? (Yeats’ The Fascination Of What’s Difficult is still above my desk)
July 29th, 2013 at 8:53 pm
I suppose, but it’s not anything deep and meaningful. It’s ‘Can a parrot’ by Spike Milligan!
July 27th, 2013 at 12:49 pm
don’t start feeling middle-aged just yet…no reason really. But love how you find inspiration in music. I find when I need to feel “home” or more like me, grounded, I listen to my fav. voice over and over and over…and thankfully my husband wasn’t home or he’d roll his eyes , you are STILL listening to that? Anyway, sometimes it’s just what you need.
July 29th, 2013 at 4:50 pm
Ah – but what is middle age? Music is the thing that anchors me in a lot of ways. In other ways, it’s the thing that cuts me loose. Anchoring is sometimes the last thing I need…
July 28th, 2013 at 8:56 am
This made me smile. Thanks.
July 29th, 2013 at 4:48 pm
Cheers! I’m glad I made you smile!
Boos! You’ve locked me out of your blog!
March 31st, 2014 at 11:34 am
Closed to everyone. I’ve not been here for a while. Trying to get my head round this ‘beast’ again. My journaling though and considering writing in a different space or way.
August 1st, 2013 at 3:54 am
I’ve been feeling middle-aged lately, but not in a Lammas sort of way. I was startled by your questioning of 50 being too late. I’ve been thinking its too early. But perhaps that is pre-Lammas thinking. But good for you for being content for now w this state/stage of your life.
As for Cohen, he has songs for every stage but some just don’t realize it until so many of those stages have passed.
August 1st, 2013 at 10:53 am
Too early. I quite like that 🙂